standing in trust

Hello Angels! Welcome back to the Cosmic Café!

We are in Pisces now. The season of surrender, among other things.

But today, we will be exploring the topic of surrender, something that is often misunderstood.

Now, a lot of the harm in this world comes from fear… and the resulting desperate attempt to control whatever we are afraid of.

Now, there are definitely legitimate reasons to fear. Life is extremely vulnerable. Especially for anyone who longs to love, to build, to belong, to feel safe and frankly just to be safe, which is pretty much all of us.

But I would like to take a look at a specific example, and that is what it is like to be a woman. Now a woman knows—instinctively— that love matters. She desires partnership, and motherhood. (now obviously I am speaking generally here and know that not all of us desire that at every moment of our life) But, generally speaking, women have a desire for partnership and motherhood. So she know that the clock is ticking: time matters. She knows that her body matters, and she knows that her life could be a lot better with a man providing and protecting her, among other things… partnership, friendship.. all the things that come from having a partner and then all the wonderful things that come from being a mother as well.

Now, because she knows that life has the potential to be better with a man, there can be a temptation to control this. She might strategize, grasp, perform or secure attention by securing a certain body.  And honestly, this may be able to secure a ring, but it won’t necessarily secure her devotion. Because that is just not how it works. If a woman and wants to feel safe and secure, she needs a man who initiates, just end of story, that is how it goes. But this is obviously something we often grow into in our partnerships. But definitely to the core of a woman, she feels safe when a man wants her, cherishes her, protects her, works hard for her and all those great things.

And so it’s really tricky as a woman to not get controlling around those things, but if a woman does that if often slips through her fingers.

Control born from fear never really works, and it certainly doesn’t create the energy of  an embodied love.

The paradox of Pisces is this: the more tightly we grip, the more life slips through our fingers. The more we attempt to force love, healing, or timing, the more we distort it.

But surrender is not passivity, or pretending not to care. It is participation without panic.

Let’s use the body as an example to illustrate this pattern in another area of life.

When you get a cut, you clean it. You protect it. You support it. But you do not force it closed with your fingers. You do not repeatedly tear it open to check if it’s healing. You trust the intelligence of the body to knit itself back together.

The moment you start jabbing at the wound trying to make it heal, you delay the healing.

Life works this way.

We are meant to tend.
Not to force.

Plants also embody this concept beautifully. They are rooted in place, yet completely exposed to wind, frost, drought, and storm. No guarantees. No insurance policies. No five-year plans.

And yet they grow.

They do not control the sun.
They do not bargain with the rain.
They do not panic when winter comes.

They root deeper.
They conserve energy.
They trust the life force moving through them.

Finally, I will share an example from my own life, when I first learned this lesson. I was 9 years old, and was kinda of a superstar at track, winning so many races that I was often in the local news paper and was once even interviewed on television!

All of my races followed the same pattern, and even then I knew it. I had something the other girls did not have: an ability to PACE. I would always start the race at the back of the pack. Always. And in my mind, I was thinking, I am just doing my best, and I truly don’t care if I win or not. I will push hard, but never to the point where I am in serious distress.

And I could tell as I would watch the other girls that their bodies were tense. They REALLY REALLY wanted to win. And they REALLY did not want to lose. And sure enough, what I saw unnecessary emotional energy, causing them to run too hard for too long, and they would inevitably burn out.

In short, they did not have enough surrender to temper their desire and aggression. They wanted the win more than the peace of the moment, and probably thought that the person who wins was the person who could push to their absolute max. But that is not how a long distance race works, because that is just simply not how the body works. And this same pattern of living focused yet peaceful, works in there areas of life as well.

When I keep my eye on the prize, but ALSO stay grounded and peaceful in the present, life more often than not goes the way I want it to. But when I get desperate, I begin to cling, control and lose my cool- and what I was wanting often slips through my fingers.

So Pisces teaches us that surrender is not weakness — it is a soul level alignment to trust the universe and your unfolding destiny. To do what you can do without compromising your peace and then surrender the rest.

Another way to put it is to focusing on becoming loving instead of obsessing over being chosen, at least in the example of wanting a man. :)

It is tending your soil instead of trying to drag the sun closer.

It is doing what is yours to do — and releasing what is not.

Fear tightens.
Love softens.
Surrender allows.

And sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is unclench our hands and let the current carry us where we are meant to go.

It is hard to do. Definitely on of those things that is easier said than done.

But, surrender allows puts us to be in the ideal psychological space to do what we can do while allowing our magnetic abilities to attract the rest.

That wraps up Memo #6 in the Comsic Cafe. I hope that this message helped to make your life a little more bright and a little more clear. Thanks for tuning in! Until next time!